What kind of a guy does girls want.
I'm sticking to that. Using my birth right as a woman, I can confidently answer that for me, I have no freakin idea.
To put it in a simple context, let's put aside the physical part and touch on one section which I've read like, a trillion times in the mags I read.
Good guys vs Bad boys.
How do I put it? Well, everything that is written after this is purely Hanis' opinion so do not bash me.
First of all, I've read on some guys complaining how being the good guy has made them ended up being friendzoned by the very girl who bitched on how she wants a good guy who won't break her heart like the last asshole.
Hmm. There's the good guy and there's the nice guy. There's a thin line between those two. Its as fine as the line between the girl who's saving herself and the virginal prude.
Does that put the point across clearly?
I'm not dissing nice guys but sometimes, they can be such sticks in the mud. Let me give you an example.
Girl: Oh, B is a good guy. <--- Read how she says good, as in giving approval of his core character.
Girl: Oh, C is a nice guy. <--- Yawn. Nice. Friendzoned level 99.
I think most girls want that guy to be a mixture of both good and bad. Yes, some even nurse the fantasy of taming the bad boy.
Pfffft. Honey, stop watching those movies and reading those romance novels. That ain't happening.
Come to think of it, some girls want the bad boy as a way of rebelling. Or a way to know the other side of the fence. *shrugs* I never got into those bad ass guys. Unless its Draco Malfoy.
Maybe a girl just want a good guy who is rebelling slightly. Who might open up her eyes to the world. Who'll take her hand and lead her into adventures she herself is afraid of starting on alone.
But yes, being too nice does get you friendzoned. Don't be a jerk by telling your girl friend to stfu when she's bitching about the asshole. Just perhaps, tell her to listen to herself and do something about it. Like, bitching to the asshole before dumping his ass.
You'll get more respect that way and hey, she might look at you differently. No guarantees.
Now this is perhaps something I've never admitted to anyone but I see the appeal in a guy who might be just a bit fucked up. That .. novelty. That "I can help him." feeling. God. Its addictive. I've been through it. No, you won't be the love of his life. You'll just be another girl. Or at most, the girl who helped him move on before finding the love of his life (which is so not you).
Well, that's it. Oh, what kind of guy I want? I told you. I have no freakin idea. But I can say that he has to be prepared to take me to all of the Disney theme parks. Of course not in one go. Silly.