"I got a friend I want to introduce to you. He doesn't really care about things."
Now, "things" = weight.
First of all, my weight is my problem. I don't even see it as something to be mentioned. I'm not going to go into an interview and when I'm asked my biggest weakness, I ain't gonna go all:
"Its my weight. I just love fooood too much so now I'm fat. FAT I SAY."
I've seen this kind of thing going on before. Where the weight is seen as a setback. Hell, in my opinion crooked teeth when you got the money to get braces done, is a bigger problem. Since people are being so superficial, let me tell you that:
Nah, he doesn't really care that you're dark.
He doesn't mind that you're taller than him.
Lack of class.
You get what I'm trying to say here?
If you want to introduce someone, be proud of who they are. Not add "but" in your introduction. Its an insult, when someone wants to introduce you to a guy with something that is clearly a "negative" in their eyes. Its like saying "He might not be good enough for me, but he'll be good enough for you."
My next concern, that made me went all "emo" on my friend, who actually appreciated and agreed with me. I told her that if you want to lose weight, do it for yourself. Not for some guy or friends who tell you to. Don't let people push you. Like, look at all those Biggest Loser and Extreme Makeover shows. They'll cry and the trainers will ask them:
"Who are you doing this for?"
"MYSELF!" *with tears running down their faces*
For yourself. Not for some superficial guy, which leads to a whole other thing.
If you ever go through a makeover, go through a late growth spurt, lose weight etc, ignore those who before transformation, ignored you or didn't see you fit for their special attention or were too embarassed to show it to the public.
Like, if you weren't good enough for them before, they sure as hell are not good enough for you, ever.
Its like friendship. Avoid the friends who are only there for the laughters, never for the tears.
I know of married couples where they made an agreement that they won't go above a certain weight.
I was 14 when I heard of that, and no, its not some Hollywood couple. Its couples that I know in life. Like, your wife has given you a bajillion kids, held your hand when things get tough, and you tell her:
"Oh honey, I don't like that tiny flab on your tummy."
What kind of marriage is that? You're supposed to love each other through health and sickness, rich and poor.
So as I told Amnah, if a guy rejects you due to your appearance, you just snap your fingers and tell them:
"I'm way too hot for you anyway."
"You're no Ambercombie & Fitch's model, mister."
"You're just used to your lower standards."
She then said, that is something I would say. To which I replied that she should be more confident of her own self worth.
"To be honest, you ain't ugly. You got a sweet face." <--- actual conversation
She then made me write this into a blog post, and another one is going to come, and it will be more on that self worth. Expect female empowerment.